OR What True Freedom Means to Me and How YOU Can Achieve It!
Last Monday I gave a training at a local non-profit. I introduced myself with the following words:
“Hi my name is Carolin Hauser. I was born and raised in Germany by two school teachers and I came to California in my mid-twenties. This makes me a very eclectic mix. I am reliable like a german coo-coo clock and I am free spirited like a hippie flower child that’s a little to late for her time.
And Why am I sharing this with you?
Because one of my two greatest values are freedom and trust and my guess for most of you in the audience these are important values as well.”
The audience knew already that my background was in Family Constellations and Trauma Healing, so I said to them:
“Healing our past wounds, our traumas has everything to do with becoming free and trusting ourselves so that we can become the leaders and world changers and create the life we want.”
In today’s article I am sharing 3 keys that will help you become free to be who you are and become visible as the leader that you are. If you are anything like me then you want nothing more then contribute to make the world a better place. You can’t make an impact as long as you are stuck. Right?? !!
If you have been following me for a while you know that my biggest challenge and breakthrough in life was overcoming 11 years of severe and very debilitating eating disorders- and if you don’t know that about me you know it now.
I got to experience first hand what it felt like to live life in a prison that was created by past traumas and my very own mind.
At 21 I had my wake up moment, a moment where time stood still and I realized that if I was going down the road I was on, I would not live to be 35. I wouldn’t get married, find love, have children and simply have a “normal” life.
From that moment on I was able to heal. To this day my full recovery is a miracle to me.
Since then I have made it my mission to learn and figure out how we can free ourselves from those past experiences that keep us stuck.
In this article I want to share some of what I have found.
And by the way, I am thirty five years old, have two beautiful children, am with my soul mate and am fully living my purpose. I have helped 
hundreds of people to heal so I know that this stuff works.
Key number 1: Stop waiting for some one else to come and heal you or make the changes for you.
Here is what I have learned, stay with me here because this is truly cutting edge information and goes way beyond the usual kind of positive thinking and belief work.
We all have experienced some sort of trauma in our childhood and if it wasn’t us then a close sibling. We as a society do not like to talk about this and keep it a big taboo. We do whatever we can to not go there. I am inviting you to go there and I know you will because you are strong and courageous and because you want to be free and step up to the plate. You want to full-fill your mission.
Here is the cutting edge info. When trauma happens, it impacts our nervous system, our physical wiring so to speak and without going into all the biochemical process and neurological changes that take place, let me just tell you that no amount of talking with a coach or therapist will help you change that.
That is why, if you have been doing a lot of work on yourself you get frustrated and feel like you are still not were you want to be.
There is only ONE way to heal your nervous system so that you can rewire yourself for success.
That way is: YOU must feel “it” to heal it. and with “it” I mean everything.
Now I know from working with clients that we normally don’t allow ourselves to feel or we weren’t allowed to feel, and so we have stuffed gazilllions of feelings into what I call our energetic trash can. As children that works because the trash can is fairly empty but the older we get the less it works. It takes all out energy to keep the lid on and the trash out of our awareness.
Most people also thinks that because they have been stuffing that can for so long, it will take them a long time to empty it and it will be quite an overwhelming experience because of the amount that’s been accumulated.
Key Number 2: This work is neither overwhelming, debilitating, nor scary.
There are several well documented processes and tools out there that can help you free yourself from all the gunk so that you can truly be who you came to be.
One of them is consciously connected breathing, the other one is called family constellations.
Key Number 3: The only thing that is EVER (and I mean it!) holding you apart from freely being who you know you are meant to be and from creating what you want is your Fear!
Mostly, fear is the experience of an unhealed, activated nervous system, so you see, no matter how you look at it it all comes back to learning how you can heal your nervous system and luckily that is a very easily learnable skill.
So to me true freedom means having the skills and tools to deal with our own physical make up (our nervous system) because when we do we know how to move forward, feel the fear and do what we need to do anyway.
If you’d like to learn more, book a complementary “Live Fearlessly Session” with me here:
My Love to YOU!
Carolin
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